PTSD Awareness – Become Trauma-Informed

Vicki Enns

PTSD, trauma-informed, counselling, mental health

Anyone can be affected by post-traumatic stress. Post-traumatic stress disorder is not only for mental or physical health professionals to know about. It is essential that everyone become trauma-informed in order to prevent PTSD, to protect and seek help for themselves or loved ones, and to mitigate the ongoing effects that can build over time from a traumatic experience. Increasing … Read More

LGBTQ2S* Pride – Moving Beyond June

Vicki Enns

In June, communities around the world remember the challenges of the past for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, two-spirit and queer individuals, couples and families, and look to the challenges still ahead. In these communities, “Pride” is well recognized to refer to a time of celebration, of mourning, of advocacy and of expression of self without barriers. Held in June, “Pride” … Read More

Counselling Couples: 4 Challenges and 4 Strategies

Vicki Enns

Relationships is one of the most common topics people focus on in counselling. Adult couple relationships, in particular, are a frequent focus, and counsellors often discover there are unique challenges when we have two people as our counselling “client” rather than just one. I teach and supervise many counsellors who work with couples, and there are some common themes that … Read More

Strengthen Relationships Through Positive Connections

Vicki Enns

What is of one of your favourite memories of a loved one? Try and think of one that has the power to help you feel calm, more secure, or just a little better about life. These memories hold an important key to helping us strengthen relationships through positive connections. I can remember my mom brushing out my hair before bedtime … Read More

Vicarious Trauma to Vicarious Transformation

Vicki Enns

trauma, vicarious trauma, anxiety, depression, mental health, counselling, counsellor, therapy, therapist, self-care

A big part of my clinical work with people is focused on trauma – helping others respond, individual healing, and relationship repair after a traumatic event. As a result, I am frequently asked about how I stay positive and hopeful in the work that I do. In other words, how do I avoid vicarious trauma (VT)? People will hear that … Read More

The 5 Parts of a Meaningful Apology: Couple Relationships

Vicki Enns

meaningful apology, couple relationships, counselling, mental health, therapy, self-care, apologize

5 Parts of a Meaningful Apology for Couples We hurt the ones we love all the time. It’s usually unintentional, or we don’t see the impact coming, but when this happens in our close relationships, the sting can be especially deep and enduring. I work with a lot of couples, and often there are metaphorical cupboards full of wounding memories … Read More

Turning Complaints into Connection: Couple Relationships

Vicki Enns

Winter can make me grouchy. Living in Manitoba, Canada, means winter holds many days of harsh, biting winds, and long nights of cold temperatures. Because of this, a recurring thought often runs through my mind: “When will this end and why do I live here?” As I sit with a couple in my office in the middle of winter, I … Read More

3 Ideas for Building Healthy Relationships

Vicki Enns

Building Healthy Relationships in Adulthood Human beings are relational. We are social creatures, and we need to be connected to others throughout our lives. This is easily understood in infancy and childhood, when we know that having reliable, safe, and emotionally nurturing adult caregivers is essential for healthy child development. However, this need for reliable relationships does not end as … Read More

3 Pillars & Principles of a Trauma-Informed Approach

Vicki Enns

trauma-informed, trauma, mental health, mental illness, self-care, counselling, therapy

You have probably heard a lot of buzz around being trauma-informed as it’s a term that is becoming increasingly embraced. Many organizations are actively seeking out ways to ensure their programming and services are fit for this label, which means they are engaging in the following pillars of trauma-informed care: Awareness of the prevalence of trauma, and how common it … Read More

Tips for Working with Resistance to Change

Vicki Enns

resistance to change, helping, helper, resolution, anxiety, depression, mental health, counselling, counsellor, therapy, therapist

If you work in the helping field, you likely encounter the struggle and fear people often have toward change. It’s ironic, isn’t it? People seek support when there is something they need to change or others want changed, then they put great energy into avoiding, fighting, or putting off making any steps toward change. Why do people struggle with change? … Read More