5 Principles for Talking Politics with Friends and Family

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How do you engage in discussions about politics with those you care about? For many, the answer is “I don’t!” Others engage eagerly in these discussions, but find themselves repeatedly caught in the muck of destructive conflict. There is another way – one that allows for respectful discourse and even strengthened relationships. In 2007, I was invited to participate in … Read More

4 Tips for Dealing with Family Conflict

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Families are often considered to be a safe place and quiet refuge. Although conflicts may happen from time to time, when they are a common occurrence – or there’s a particularly intense conflict – the family relationship of trust, safety, and support can break down. What follows are 4 tips that can help you move through family conflict. For this … Read More

4 Ways to Practice Humility in Relationships

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It seems to me that the very basis of humility requires an acknowledgment and acceptance of our fundamental human need for relationship. Relationships enable us to experience and meet our needs for connection, belonging, acceptance, and love. Several years ago, I attended a conference where the speaker referred to the human body as a “skin suit” that, once unzipped, reveals … Read More

10 Keys to Building a Strong Family

Luke Whitmore

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A strong family is not just the sum of its parts. Like an orchestra, it has synergy when all work together. My three children all play a stringed instrument. They have spent countless hours practicing and performing with the community orchestra. The conductor centres her attention on what the group can create when they come together. My children also take … Read More

How to Bring Reason Back Into Conversations

Luke Whitmore

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We often allow our predetermined beliefs to guide how we relate to other people. Look no further than politicians who speak about each other or groups they disagree with, using negative and, at times, highly charged rhetoric. I don’t know about you, but I find some despair and anxiety seeping into my psyche every time I read about, witness, or … Read More

Strengthening Relationships Through Positive Connections

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What is of one of your favourite memories of a loved one? Try and think of one that has the power to help you feel calm, more secure, or just a little better about life. These memories hold an important key to what can help us have stronger positive connections in our current relationships. I can remember my mom brushing … Read More

10 Strategies for Dealing with Passive Aggressive People

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We’ve all tried to avoid confrontation or felt we couldn’t directly express our thoughts and feelings to someone, which can sometimes cause us to act in ways that are passive aggressive. Like most personality traits, passive aggressiveness occurs along a continuum from mild to severe characteristics. While we may be passive aggressive from time to time, there are those who … Read More

The 5 Parts of a Meaningful Apology: Couple Relationships

Luke Whitmore

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5 Parts of a Meaningful Apology for Couples We hurt the ones we love all the time. It’s usually unintentional, or we don’t see the impact coming, but when this happens in our close relationships, the sting can be especially deep and enduring. I work with a lot of couples, and often there are metaphorical cupboards full of wounding memories … Read More

3 Tips to Connect with Your Child

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“Wow, he’s finally getting out of the house for the weekend,” my husband and I remarked to each other this morning, after our almost 15-year-old son left for his high school band camp. This isn’t a statement I expected to make when I had teenagers. Our society not only emphasizes the autonomous nature of adolescence, but goes as far as … Read More

5 Simple Steps to Random Acts of Kindness

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The Oxford English Dictionary defines “random” as “Having no definite aim or purpose; not set or guided in a particular direction; made, done, occurring, etc., without method or conscious choice; haphazard.” I am asking you to completely disregard the Oxford Dictionary definition of random. Instead, I want you to celebrate National Random Acts of Kindness Day on February 17th, 2016 and every … Read More