3 Priorities for Helping High-Risk Clients

Nadine Groves

life-threatening behaviours, self-harm, self-care, mental health, therapy, counselling, anxiety, depression, caregiver

As a counsellor, I sometimes feel overwhelmed when a client begins their session by listing the various crises that happened during their week. It’s difficult to know where to start when someone starts with, “I told my boss off,” “I fought with my boyfriend and downed a handful of pills,” and “If he leaves, I’ll kill myself,” What can I … Read More

3 Self-Care Strategies for Helpers

Heather Woodward

wholistic self-care, self-care, mental health, physical health, spiritual health

What does self-care really mean? I used to get overwhelmed when thinking about self-care, wondering if I was doing enough to “fulfill” its requirements. I would find myself asking: How much will it cost? Am I doing it right? Am I doing enough? I was thinking about self-care as an individual project to be tackled, one problem area at a … Read More

Tips for Using Laughter in Counselling

John Koop Harder

laughter, humour, counselling, counseling, therapy, mental health, well-being

Dave always begins and ends with a joke. However, the conversations between such bookends are anything but funny. In our meetings, Dave talks about his experiences of the chaos he survived growing up, and the intense effort it takes to leave this in the past. As I get to know Dave, he tells me humour is his way of dealing … Read More

3 Tips for Working with Grief

John Koop Harder

“How do I work with people who are stuck in their grief? You know, those people that are just not able to move on.” This is a common question people ask during my grief workshops. To tell you the truth, I don’t like the term “stuck” – especially when it comes to grief. The language of “stuckness” is rooted in … Read More

The Art of Asking Good Questions

John Koop Harder

“So John, what ideas have been important to you these last few years?” My first response was, “What a great question!” This was asked of me by my old friend Hektor when we recently reconnected after almost 20 years. I was stopped a bit short by the question and its depth, and I continue to reflect on it – to … Read More

How to Engage Dads in the Counselling Process

John Koop Harder

“Anyone can be a father (well, almost anyone). It can be as simple as having a bit of fun on a Friday night because being a father is merely being a part of creating life. However, there is a difference in being a dad. For me, being a dad means being involved, active, and engaged in the child’s life. The … Read More

Counselling Couples: 4 Challenges and 4 Strategies

Vicki Enns

Relationships is one of the most common topics people focus on in counselling. Adult couple relationships, in particular, are a frequent focus, and counsellors often discover there are unique challenges when we have two people as our counselling “client” rather than just one. I teach and supervise many counsellors who work with couples, and there are some common themes that … Read More

Vicarious Trauma to Vicarious Transformation

Vicki Enns

trauma, vicarious trauma, anxiety, depression, mental health, counselling, counsellor, therapy, therapist, self-care

A big part of my clinical work with people is focused on trauma – helping others respond, individual healing, and relationship repair after a traumatic event. As a result, I am frequently asked about how I stay positive and hopeful in the work that I do. In other words, how do I avoid vicarious trauma (VT)? People will hear that … Read More

“John is a Good Guy.”

John Koop Harder

counselling, counsellor, therapy, therapist, mental health, mental illness, anxiety, depression, self-care

My career as a counsellor and trainer has taught me a lot. In fact, some of my greatest teachers have been the people I have worked with. One teaching I have been reflecting a lot on lately comes from Dave. Dave is a former client I invited to co-present with me at a training for working with men who have … Read More

8 Cancers That Can Hurt Relationships

Cindy Deschenes

Author and speaker, Dr. Stephen Covey, spoke of five different kinds of cancers that destroy all relationships. As a mental health therapist, I know of eight (including Dr. Covey’s five) that many of us are unaware of and that we may practice daily without realizing. In his work, the late Dr. Covey spoke of these first five, but I believe … Read More