How to Engage Dads in the Counselling Process

Luke Whitmore

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“Anyone can be a father (well, almost anyone). It can be as simple as having a bit of fun on a Friday night because being a father is merely being a part of creating life. However, there is a difference in being a dad. For me, being a dad means being involved, active, and engaged in the child’s life. The … Read More

Counselling Couples: 4 Challenges and 4 Strategies

Luke Whitmore

couple, couple relationship, communication, pattern, counselling, mental health

Relationships are one of the most common topics people focus on in counselling. Adult couple relationships in particular are a frequent focus, and counsellors often discover there are unique challenges when we have two people as our counselling “client” rather than just one. I teach and supervise many counsellors who work with couples, and there are some common themes that … Read More

“John is a Good Guy.”

Luke Whitmore

therapeutic relationship, values, stories, identity

My career as a counsellor and trainer has taught me a lot. In fact, some of my greatest teachers have been the people I have worked with. One teaching I have been reflecting a lot on lately comes from Dave. Dave is a former client I invited to co-present with me at a training for working with men who have … Read More

4 Tips for Supporting Marital Separation

Luke Whitmore

Several years ago, I experienced a sense of loss upon hearing that my neighbour and her husband were getting divorced. I wasn’t particularly close to them, but for a fleeting moment I thought about the ways in which this separation would impact me. Most of us have friends or family who have separated and can relate to the myriad of … Read More

8 Cancers That Can Hurt Relationships

Luke Whitmore

Author and speaker, Dr. Stephen Covey, spoke of five different kinds of cancers that destroy all relationships. As a mental health therapist, I know of eight (including Dr. Covey’s five) that many of us are unaware of and that we may practice daily without realizing. In his work, the late Dr. Covey spoke of these first five, but I believe … Read More

Turning Complaints into Connection: Couple Relationships

Luke Whitmore

Winter can make me grouchy. Living in Manitoba, Canada, means winter holds many days of harsh, biting winds, and long nights of cold temperatures. Because of this, a recurring thought often runs through my mind: “When will this end and why do I live here?” As I sit with a couple in my office in the middle of winter, I … Read More

Reflections on Grief and Continuation

Luke Whitmore

In loss we are asked to learn how to be in a relationship with an unseen being. We have to open our minds to our imagination and then want the imaginal relationship to develop. – Deborah Morris Coryell Years ago, I remember getting the call that my partner’s grandmother was dying. Being young and flexible, we got in the car … Read More

Tips For Working With Resistance To Change

Luke Whitmore

If you work in the helping field, you likely encounter the struggle and fear people often have toward change. It’s ironic isn’t it? People seek support when there is something they need to change or others want changed. Then they put great energy into avoiding, fighting off or procrastinating making any steps toward change. Why do people struggle with change? … Read More

7 Tips for Finding the Right Counsellor

Luke Whitmore

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So you have decided you are ready to seek a change, tackle a tough decision or perhaps find support to improve the way you are managing in your life. How do you find a professional counsellor or therapist to help you on this journey, who is the right match for your particular concerns or goals? 1. Find the Right Type … Read More

Tips for Using Laughter in Counselling

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Dave always begins and ends with a joke. However, the conversations between such bookends are anything but funny. In our meetings, Dave talks about his experiences of the chaos he survived growing up, and the intense effort it takes to leave this in the past. As I get to know Dave, he tells me humour is his way of dealing … Read More